Prompt: Tell us about one thing (or more) that you promised yourself you’d accomplish by the end of the year. How would you feel once you do? What if you don’t?
My personal goal for 2022 is to take an illustration course and start drawing in my spare time.
Once I’m actively drawing I’m certain there will be plenty of days where I’m thinking, “Wow. This does not look good.“, BUT I know it takes continual effort to build skills. Am I going to wish a skill bar would update with each new illustration? If only. I just hope the small milestones will keep my going.
Now if I don’t manage this by year’s end…’bummed’ is probably the best way to describe how I’ll feel. In the past, I’ve always put what I’d call “responsible goals” first whether career or education related. Anything in the realm of hobbies simply fell to the wayside, so I really want to pursue something for the joy of doing it.
We are three days into the new year and I can honestly say I haven’t started a course yet- mainly because I still need to finish my data analytics course…There’s plenty of time though!
The other night I had a conversation with my mom about the future and relationships. What kicked it off was me asking what she thought of my boyfriend. Her response was along the lines of : if he’s in the same spot six months from now then he’ll just be another chapter in your life.
A bit harsh, right?
My mom is very adamant about living the life you want- specifically standard of living and desire to travel. She’s worked extremely hard to achieve what she has and wants my potential life partner (we’re both not sold on marriage) to have goals that align with mine. In short: she’s against carrying someone through life unless it’s your children; and even then there’s an expiration date.
I don’t necessarily disagree with her because we both have the unfortunate habit of spending money on the people we want in our lives. In fact, it’s because I still live with her that I was able to begin cutting down on it so early in life.
Never underestimate the power of watching your habits in real time with a glimpse into the future- it starts making you look at your relationships a LOT more objectively a LOT faster.
Anyway, it’s weird because I’m entering that phase in life where older relatives are starting to look at the people I date in terms of longevity. Will they make a good husband/life partner? Are they financially stable? Do they have their shit together? Will they make a good addition to the family? Meanwhile the farthest my mind goes is the possibility of vacationing together and moving in. Anything in the sphere of marriage/life partners/etc. isn’t even on my radar. Financial stability is, but not in the sense of “will they be able to take care of me?“. Instead it’s more like, “will they be able to go with me places and support themselves?” a.k.a. “can they pay to come on the trip or would I need to pay for them?“.
Part of me wonders if I should start looking at it all more seriously, but then I have to remind myself that age aside I don’t need to be so focused on that level of a relationship. Right now I’m more focused on my personal goals and the way I see it; either the person I’m with and I will naturally (or consciously) make the decision to go in the same direction OR we’ll naturally/consciously split off.
I mean, I don’t even want a house. I’m indifferent to marriage. I don’t want kids…What a life partner would mean to me probably varies considerably from not only what those relatives of mine are thinking, but even a lot of my friends and that’s fine because it’s not their “hypothetical future relationship”.
Plus the family I see most often is generally pretty lax soooo: hooray for family that lets you do you even if they might not get it!