Saying “Yes” to the Dress

This may not be common knowledge, but I used to watch Say Yes to the Dress quite often back in the day. It honestly might be why I boarded the 90 Day Fiancé train so early on…but back on topic.

After I’d nailed down a good portion of vendors I got the idea to start watching again. Since my partner was lovely enough to get Discovery+ this meant I was able to start from the very beginning.

SIDE NOTE: I 100% recommend this show when you want just a small fix of drama.

By the time I went to my own bridal appointment I’d gotten through the first few seasons and was feeling…calm, I suppose? I knew I didn’t have any family drama or tension commonly seen on the show. If anything my biggest concern was whether or not I’d be able to pick a dress in one ninety-minute session. After all, my mother, future mother-in-law, and future sister-in-law all flew in specifically for this. Did I call in advance to see if we could potentially come again in the same weekend? Yep.

I’d already picked a few dresses online though which helped move us along and then we were off to races!

I will say that while I liked trying on dresses it was very surreal to see myself in one. Since middle school my mother had always told me not to get married (this tune changed when she met my partner) and my father never married. In a way it felt foreign- not to say I didn’t have a good time. It was just…odd. Everyone in my party cried except for me.

In the end I tried maybe eight dresses and ended up picking the third. So yes, I said yes to a dress and it only took one appointment!

SIDE NOTE: Oh, and to clarify- I did not go to Kleinfeld Bridal.

Photo by Charisse Kenion on Unsplash

Starting the Year with a Bang

Eight days into 2022 and I can proudly announce: I’ve completed my data analytics course!

Did I keep to my original timeline? …No. Initially, I wanted to be done by New Year’s Eve, but for once I don’t feel any self imposed guilt. I mean, I still finished ahead of the course’s schedule and now I can start applying to new opportunities.

It’s weird because when I started this post I thought I’d have so much to say. Instead, I’m just content and ready to pursue the next professional chapter.

Purrs Against Illness

Does anyone else’s pet hone in on them when they’re under the weather?

In my case, my cat has a four prong system:

i. jumps/climbs into my lap

ii. a gentle head butt

iii. lays down on my chest

iv. purrs

Without fail, he does this a few hours into me feeling unwell and follows up every day until I’m well again. I can’t say if it actually helps, but it definitely makes me feel warm and fuzzy…It’s the little things.

artist: @artoshtu

Pick Your Potion

Prompt: Captain Picard was into Earl Grey tea; mention the Dude and we think: White Russians. What’s your signature beverage — and how did it achieve that status?

Hands down, bone broth. Specifically, beef bone broth.

My mom introduced it a few years back after asking a coworker how their hair and skin was so healthy. According to her coworker it was thanks to bone broth. They explained how when their husband underwent chemotherapy, they began taking bone broth every morning and it not only helped their husband, but them as well. So of course my mom got the recipe.

Have I had a cup every day since? Eh…I’ve fallen off the wagon a few times, but lately I’ve been on top of it. Shout out to my partner who now drinks it with me five days a week!

SIDE NOTE: I don’t make it at home or have the recipe. I just buy it at my local grocery store, but there are loads of great recipes online for anyone who may be interested.

Photo by Bluebird Provisions on Unsplash

Great Expectations

Prompt: Tell us about one thing (or more) that you promised yourself you’d accomplish by the end of the year. How would you feel once you do? What if you don’t?

My personal goal for 2022 is to take an illustration course and start drawing in my spare time.

Once I’m actively drawing I’m certain there will be plenty of days where I’m thinking, “Wow. This does not look good.“, BUT I know it takes continual effort to build skills. Am I going to wish a skill bar would update with each new illustration? If only. I just hope the small milestones will keep my going.

Now if I don’t manage this by year’s end…’bummed’ is probably the best way to describe how I’ll feel. In the past, I’ve always put what I’d call “responsible goals” first whether career or education related. Anything in the realm of hobbies simply fell to the wayside, so I really want to pursue something for the joy of doing it.

We are three days into the new year and I can honestly say I haven’t started a course yet- mainly because I still need to finish my data analytics course…There’s plenty of time though!

artist: @artoshtu

Simply the Best

Prompt: When and where do you do your best thinking? In the bathroom? While running? Just before bed, or first thing in the morning? On the bus? Why do you think that is?

Oof. This one is tough because there really isn’t a specific ‘when‘ so to speak. Instead, I do my best thinking whenever I’m doing something that…doesn’t require active concentration. In the shower? Yep. While meal prepping? Yep. Waiting for my partner to make decisions at the home improvement store? You got it.

Now that I’m thinking back on it though- when I was younger my best thinking always happened while doing puzzles. Unfortunately for me, I can’t hop back into puzzles just yet because: a) I used to do thousand piece ones, and b) I now have two cats keeping me in retirement.

My only theory on why my best thinking happens in these situations is because I’m running on autopilot…So I can let my mind wander without feeling unproductive?

I don’t know if it’s a solid theory, but it’s all I’ve got.

A Source of Anxiety

Prompt: Write about a noise — or even a silence — that won’t go away. (We’ll let you interpret this in different ways…)

The first thing to come to mind when I read this prompt was The Neighborhood’s “Afraid”. Specifically the lyrics, “When I wake up, I’m afraid somebody else might take my place”

For me it’s a silent presence. Technically in my mind, yet always feels as if it’s looming over my shoulder. It’s a constant reminder of shortcomings in friendships past and how others can decide it’s in their best interest to move forward without you.

It’s a conglomeration of anxieties and insecurities.

Over time I’ve learned to manage, but of course there are always certain people and situations which cause it to rise with full strength. I know it will never truly go away- I just hope the silence will begin to fade.

artist: @artoshtu